nice guy vs the jerk

chivalry. courteous and generous behavior towards women. something that every woman looks for right?
so they say.

"chivalry is dead and women killed it!" - dave chappelle (killin' them softly)

even though that phrase has a comedic tone, he makes a truthful point. there is no hope for the nice guy anymore. a friend of mine is going through a rough one right now. married the love of his life. super nice guy. he's a guy around guys, and mush around his woman. he goes out the way for his woman on a daily basis and now she wants to call things off for what? boredom? nope they travel. he's cheating? nope. too soft for that. he mistreats her? nope. i said he's a nice guy! then why? she never gives the same reason twice. how about counseling? he tried. she refused. hmm...we'll come back to this story. my theory? follow me:

women love jerks...there i said it. how come it's the guys that treat women like crap the ones they never want to let go. doesn't make sense but i have somewhat of an understanding. i think on some level, we all lose an appreciation for what we have, thus the saying "you don't know what you have til it's gone". when a guy becomes a jerk, it's as if he is "taking away" the things that the woman appreciates most which makes the woman in the relationship "submit" or "cling" to the guy in fear of "losing everything". in short, women rather have a jerky boyfriend than no boyfriend.

why are women more attracted to a jerk than a sweet, nice guy?

the answer is complicated because they are and yet they aren't. there is a "nice" attribute that attracts women, but even though a jerk reveals himself as a jerk later on, women make the mistake of excusing the jerk's actions by saying "he's not always like that". then, the nice guy (who seems to do all the right things), although sincere, has absolutely no chance becoz it is now assumed that he has a hidden agenda. it's a vicious cycle.

back to the scenario with my friend:
he was pulling insight from everywhere. but when he came to me, i told him to be a straight asshole. straight up. result? he finally pushed back, stiffened his neck, and rose above her nonsense and NOW she wants to work towards making things work.
women, defend yourselves...what's up with that?!?

this is an ongoing topic that needs to be discussed. please, chime in. leave lots of comments. we are looking for everyone's point of view. even if you're a jerk. i'm just saying...

Dom
if nobody feels you, i feels you, feel me?
be easy coz life is hard...